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Bit of a deep one this for off topic, but I wasn't sure which section of the forum to post this in, off topic seemed as good as any.
A few of you brought to my attention a while back that I was getting too angry, and I agreed. I'd never thought much about it before.
Whilst my anger isn't just a road problem, it's a life problem for me (which I'm slowly working on) I can't help but feel I should be trying harder to keep my cool when someone cuts me up, gives me the finger, or is just a general idiot. I'm just not sure how. Just today, following a lot of stress to do with my bank, I had to take my mate into town for him to get his mrs a present and I really lost my cool when someone swung their door open on me and then proceeded to shout at me for beeping at them. They then proceeded to stand in the road shaking their head at me, as soon as I had a clear gap I held my horn and sped off splashing them with a puddle in the process. damnthatfeltgood.jpeg But absolutely I realize I should have just sighed, shook my head back, said a swear and laughed about it, which I did do shortly after, but still. Had police seen me just speeding off with my horn held and not seen what happened before that, then I'm the one in trouble, not them, potentially.
Are there any rituals any of you do before a drive, any ways you unwind before tackling that long tedious journey that you don't particularly want to make?
If you've had or are having a bad day do you just avoid driving altogether? (obviously some days it can't be helped as you HAVE to be somewhere)
I'm interested to know and I'm hoping I'm going to receive open minded answers here rather than criticism. I value my skills as a driver, and highly rate my visual awareness and observations, but road rage is a struggle for me and if I can begin tackling my anger problem where it's at its worst then I hope I will make strides in other aspects of day to day life as well.
I eagerly await your suggestions as I have a 98 mile drive to do tomorrow night that I don't feel up for. All I can think so far is to meditate pre-drive or put some kind of device in the car that emits a calming fragrance.
Edit: I know 'techniques' for keeping calm but with how fast paced and dangerous the roads can be often you don't have those 10 seconds to "just breathe". And that's my problem I instantly react.
A few of you brought to my attention a while back that I was getting too angry, and I agreed. I'd never thought much about it before.
Whilst my anger isn't just a road problem, it's a life problem for me (which I'm slowly working on) I can't help but feel I should be trying harder to keep my cool when someone cuts me up, gives me the finger, or is just a general idiot. I'm just not sure how. Just today, following a lot of stress to do with my bank, I had to take my mate into town for him to get his mrs a present and I really lost my cool when someone swung their door open on me and then proceeded to shout at me for beeping at them. They then proceeded to stand in the road shaking their head at me, as soon as I had a clear gap I held my horn and sped off splashing them with a puddle in the process. damnthatfeltgood.jpeg But absolutely I realize I should have just sighed, shook my head back, said a swear and laughed about it, which I did do shortly after, but still. Had police seen me just speeding off with my horn held and not seen what happened before that, then I'm the one in trouble, not them, potentially.
Are there any rituals any of you do before a drive, any ways you unwind before tackling that long tedious journey that you don't particularly want to make?
If you've had or are having a bad day do you just avoid driving altogether? (obviously some days it can't be helped as you HAVE to be somewhere)
I'm interested to know and I'm hoping I'm going to receive open minded answers here rather than criticism. I value my skills as a driver, and highly rate my visual awareness and observations, but road rage is a struggle for me and if I can begin tackling my anger problem where it's at its worst then I hope I will make strides in other aspects of day to day life as well.
I eagerly await your suggestions as I have a 98 mile drive to do tomorrow night that I don't feel up for. All I can think so far is to meditate pre-drive or put some kind of device in the car that emits a calming fragrance.
Edit: I know 'techniques' for keeping calm but with how fast paced and dangerous the roads can be often you don't have those 10 seconds to "just breathe". And that's my problem I instantly react.
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