@DD20 Too much to cover in a single answer so this is just about 'stealth'. You're right about some cams being obvious, in fact most are rather obvious to someone who is looking for them. Being a camera at least the lens has to be visible to the outside or they wouldn't serve our purposes. So you either 1- Have the least amount showing, 2- Have what does show not appear to be a dashcam, 3- Have the cam situated where those looking for a cam won't likely look.. 4- Have the cam blending in to the background. And of course I'm speaking only of what is visible from outside the car to someone standing or walking past. I'm not recommending these examples as being good cams but only trying to show what I feel best demonstrates each particular approach
1- The K2S is a dual-remote and has the smallest cam modules I've seen so far. This small size is generally not associated with dashcams, but if you look it's clearly got a lens and therefore is a cam, and the angular shape may look out of place compared to factory moldings and modules.
2- The B1W has a sleek rounded appearance which looks far more like some factory-installed part than any other cam I've seen. Again you will see a lens but no avoiding that. It's the best visible stealth for dashcam as it looks more like some factory module so doesn't draw attention to itself. There was even a cheap and crappy cam once made in a 'yellow rubber duck' housing meant to look like a dashboard ornament instead of a cam.
3- You'll be trading off some other things, but you can mount many cams away from the windshield though it might require some DIY work for mounting. In many cars the view from the dome light in the roof forward is enough for dashcam purposes and not being on the windshield isn't going to stand out to those looking for dashcams since they are looking elsewhere. Something similar can be achieved by mounting a cam back from the windshield so that the roofline obscures it up close and shadows it at any distance.
4- Rear-view mirror cams are an attempt to hide in plain sight like this but none are good. Wedge cams behind a frit can hide similarly but don't always do that. Cams positioned directly in front of the mirror tend to blend in with it if they're the same color. What does this best is car-specific as every car is different.
One last approach is not often seen, but one member here took an old Mobius cam, disassembled it, and used a lens extension cable so they could make a hole for the lens in a factory housing at the mirror while hiding the PC board under it. Very custom and almost invisible but can't be easily done with most cams and has several drawbacks with it. Even if someone saw it, they wouldn't bother to steal it for profit as you couldn't sell it being taken apart that way. And the old Mobius itself presents a small front profile and doesn't look like any of the usual dashcams so can go unnoticed with some installs.
There's always a dozen or less really good cams for their time and a bunch of fairly good ones along with them. Most of us just choose whichever of these meets our feature and performance needs that will also be at least somewhat stealthy. You're often forced to compromise one for the other based on your vehicle. No one solution works for everyone or every car or even for most, so you have to decide what you want the most and what you're willing to sacrifice to get that aspect. With some thought and care in mounting there's probably a really good cam that can work for you and if you're lucky the compromises may be small or not even be necessary. Keep an open mind about non-conventional mounting and hiding things and remember that few people are looking for a dashcam, especially if it doesn't stand out.
Phil