Thanks to everyone for all the replies and suggestions. I have decided to try another Thinkware U1000. I have done so much research on everything out there in this class, and I just can't find anything that fits the bill for me any better, (if it will just work the way it's supposed to).
And.....There's just so many things pointing to the strong possibility that maybe, just maybe I got a bad one to begin with. (I hope that's the case). Lol.
The Viofo 129 Pro was looking really good, especially since it records default at h.264 with the setting that will do h.265, where the Thinkware is stuck on h.265, but although the cabling being heavier might be good, it looks like it would be messy trying to run it as heavy as it was. And everything else I seen was only 2 megapixel compared to the 8 megapixel on the 4k stuff, or just went too far out of the budget.
So with all things considered, I haven't anything to lose except more time, so while they're still on sale, I ordered another one. It won't be here for about a week and a half, but hopefully by then Thinkware will have their software updated so it will recognize the camera on my phone, and I'm ordering another new sd card too, just for good measure. I'll come back and re-post as soon as I see if it's going to work out or not.