Yep, Schottky diodes will get enormously hot at these current levels. Definitely not what you want. I used this purple anti-backflow diode with parallel ICs inside my LTO battery pack. It prevents my parking battery from dumping significant current back into the car's electrical system before the alternator starts to charge the battery.
Ideal Diode - 80V 50A black board, based on an NCEP023N10LL mosfet. This one requires having a ground wire attached (no big deal) and stays nice and cool. With an 8A charge rate, the temp rise is only 4-5c over ambient with a voltage drop of about 32mV with an 8A load.
https://www.aliexpress.us/item/3256803401816483.html
I also used this Time Delay Relay to control the charging voltage for my parking battery:
https://www.aliexpress.us/item/3256802724327712.html
It seems to provide 6-8 seconds of delay before turning on, which lets the car's charging system stabilize before drawing significant charging current. I don't really care what its current draw is (likely around 100-150mA I haven't measured it), it is powered from the fuse box with an add-a-fuse. Might want to add a diode to the coil leads to suppress the voltage spike when the coil is de-energized. They are cheap, order an extra one or two as spares.
Be sure the fuse harness that you plug the relay into has 12g wiring for the power leads. Something like this:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/B074FSZWVT
If you are targeting 12A charging current for your parking battery, you need to wire as shown below. This is too much current to pull from a fuse box or from a utility outlet. Use an super heavy-duty (8g) inline fuse holder like this to tap directly from the car's battery positive terminal:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/B0B6R8J932
I've found that similar 12g fuse holder housings get warm while passing only 8-10A of current. Warm wires are too thin. Connect the parking battery ground directly your chassis ground (not the battery negative terminal) so the BMS in your car knows you are pulling battery current and keeps it properly charged. I've been using the following wiring configuration in two different cars for about 6-7 months without any issue.